Training V: More than Friends
Photo (c) Staci Bu Shea
The fifth training as part of the Trainings for the Not-Yet is with Staci Bu Shea, and take place on 9 and 11 October 2019. This training focuses on building coalition and affinity, strategies for dealing with feelings, principles of nonviolent communication, creating and maintaining boundaries, and identifying and holding accountability.
More than Friends opens to modes of affinity and coalition from the standpoint that, according to Bu Shea, every “revolution starts at home.” The training sets out from three premises: first, the nuclear household is the site of the majority of abuse and sexual violence in the world; second, finding political community can be a place of refuge for many yet may also be a place of disharmony; and third, issues in relationships often arise from hard to describe, often unnamed, internalized, and interpersonal oppressions and traumas. The training explores: ways of expanding relationships of care; differences between affinity and coalition (Bernice Johnson-Reagon) and between conflict and abuse (Sarah Schulman); accountability practices, tools, and strategies of nonviolent communication; navigating relationships with mental health in mind; and taking journeys of healing without harming ourselves and others. The material to be discussed is drawn from theories and practices of transformative justice, family abolition, non-monogamy, and disability activism, looking in particular at the immense work by queer womyn of color across these fields. The content of this training was also incorporated into the class Bu Shea lead with Jeanne van Heeswijk last spring for HKU MAFA’s Spatial Practice class “More than Friends: on belonging, access, and safe(r) spaces”, as well as it’s part of her “study line” at Casco called Poetics of Living.
When: 9 and 11 October 2019 (Wednesday and Friday)
Both days, 14-18 hrs.
This is a two-day training. Please ensure that you can attend the training in its entirety.
Combi ticket (two days): € 10 normal/€ 5 student discount. Please take notice that there are multiple trainings taking place at the same time this week, and you can’t take part in more than one training at the same time. This training doesn’t include dinner because of another training this particular week. Book your tickets via Eventbrite.
For each training, BAK provides a few free places for those who would otherwise not be able to attend. To apply, please send a short explanation (max. 120 words) to email@example.com, at least four days prior to the training. (First come, first serve).
Check the full program of trainings here.